Is It Wrong To Not Want My Boyfriend To Buy His Sons Mom A Baby Gift Which She Just Had With Another Guy?
The Mom is irresponsible and unsteady. My boyfriend sees the good in everyone and I am upset that he calls her his friend. He is way to nice to her not only for the kids but I think he cares about her. Isn’t is ok to feel like not getting the new baby a gift?
I wouldn’t have a problem with him getting her a SMALL gift, but I would make it clear that you don’t want her to take advantage of him. I’d tell him that he’s far too nice for his own good, and as long as it stops at a small gift (a picture frame, photo album, maybe something to hang on the wall of the baby’s room) then that’s fine, but you don’t want her guilt-tripping him into supporting the kid.
I agree with you. First off, I can understand that he needs to have some kind of connection with her cause he does share a child with her. But as far as buying a gift for her cause she is having a baby by her new bf is bull. And I would tell him that too. You guys want to get along and talk and compromise for the sake of your son, great. But as for anything else, I find it unacceptable. We are a couple now, just like they are a couple and the only thing that should be tying any of us together is the fact that you guys have a child together and that is it. As for your best friend, I thought when I came into the picture I became your lover and friend. If he doesn’t understand that, then you have a decision to make. Either deal with it or get out of the relationship. Good-luck