Is It Rude To Put In A Gift List With A Baby Shower Invitation?
I don’t really need to much just a few little things. Is it rude to put a list in with shower invite. I don’t to appear greedy or anything like that. People usually ask what you might need but I thought it might be easier.
its not rude itsjust not usual.
If u go to babysrus and have a registry just with then little things u need they will give u the invitations 4 free with a registry number for ur friends to c wat u need. U dont have to worry about ur friends bein able to afford babyrus prices or not if its not actual baby gear them most ppl get the supplies where its more convenient but its less work n cheaper for u. ENJOY!
It is extremely rude and tactless. It’s like sending them your shopping list and demanding they show up with the goods. Guests don’t want to be treated like personal shoppers.
It is acceptable, however, to tell people directly what you’d like when they ask, or to create a registry at one or two stores you like, like Babies R Us. Most people will assume you have a registry anyway, and will ask where it is. This is at least more like a ‘helpful suggestion’ of what to buy and not like placing a direct order.
People will be expecting you to have created a list of things you need, but they will expect this to be in the form of a gift registry. I used an online registry site called myregistry.com so that I could add whatever I needed (no matter what store it was from) to one online list. I then had the host of my shower send anyone who wanted it an eCard (they were free on the website) with a link to my registry list. I think this is probably the best way to go if you are worried about being tacky.
Yes, it’s definitely rude. Register at Target or Babies R’ Us, and just put a note in your invitations as to where you’re registered. When people buy off your registry, the store automatically updates your registry so that once an item is purchased, it’s listed as “item fulfilled.” That way, people can see that that someone already purchased that item and they’ll buy something else. From my experience (I have a one-month old baby girl), you can never have too many of the small-ticket items anyway, like onesies, diapers, bottles, blankets, burp cloths, etc. So even if multiple people buy those items for you, you’ll definitely use them.
well you dont usually put a list in the invitation, you just included the store you are registered at …usually at the bottom of the invitation under the RSVP it will say something like “registered at Target” and your guest will go to target and view your lists there and pick something from your list and get it for you. once they buy it it gets crossed off the list and that way people know what you still need.
I would go ahead and do a gift registry at target, walmart or babies r us. Include the registry number at the bottom of the invitation. This is very standard practice now and not quite as… direct as putting a list in there. I usually see the line at the bottom of the invitation saying “jane is registered at Target. Registry number 123456″
One option is to create a baby website (kind of like a wedding website) to use for all the baby information and the registry information in one. I’m the founder of this type of registry service and it is perfect for babies. Our website is DepositAGiftcom
Check out the samples for baby and baby shower and you’ll see what I mean: https://www.depositagift.com/sampleRegistries
When you create your Deposit a Gift event registry site we offer some wording options to help you get started with the note to your guests, since that can be so hard!
You can use Deposit a Gift to register for yourself or on behalf of someone else if you are throwing the shower for them.
Feel free to write if you have any questions: dana@depositagift.com
Cheers!
Dana
NO – rude. Make online gift registries and make a little note about where. From there, guests can see the list of your requested gifts and can tell if others have already purchased them.
Target, wal-mart for sure. If your guest list happens to be wealthier and “in the know” then try pottery barn for kids and other baby specialty stores.
You can also list everything on a free website you create. There are many places, that once you register, you can list registries – even potential baby names and make a quiz.
My friend is an Asian and it is not their custom to ask for specific gifts. For them it is rude.
On her wedding, i asked her to do that. It won’t be rude despite culture if you it rightly.
I told her not to include brands and look for general terms so that there is room for budgeting for the part of the visitor.
Also, on the invitation, don’t sound like pushing. You can say: if you are planning to give gifts, s stroller would be appreciated. *smile *smile. If you don’t, you know too well that your presence would do a lot for us.
If you do this, it will sound like you are just breaking the ice.
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Hope that idea helps
I dont think it would be rude I think it may actually be helpful that way you avoid getting the same gifts its kind of a registry…you can register at a store and include the stores registry paper with it. I always put my sons clothes size on his bday invitations that way I avoid making trips to stores to exchange if to big or to small..
I would just do include it and see how it goes..they may also appreciate it since they know more like what you do need. and sometimes when we go to a babyshower we have no idea what to actuall take so it be helpful..
good luck..and congrats on your pregnancy =]]
I agree with the ‘rude and tacky’ responses… i think it would be both. Two other options: relatives and a generic online store.
Relatives- explain that you would really like these items IF people ask, but you don’t want to be tacky and weren’t sure how to make that info available. When dh and I got married, we had people asking my mum quite often what I/we would like because apparently i hadn’t put enough on the registry (i didn’t want to come across greedy, and we already had some stuff because both lived [separately] in our own homes).
Generic Store – some place online that you can register, even if guests won’t buy thru that store. Its a ‘half-way’ suggestion, because you can include an ‘would like/appreciate items like what is registered at http://www.genericstore.com‘
I do think that sounds rude. I would get the impression that if I don’t buy a gift I should not show to the event. People never put gift lists in birthday invitations, christmas cards, ect because it’s tacky.
You could put on the back of the card where your baby registries are located.
No it isnt at all it helps the person buying i think, I did in mine and i got almost everything that i needed! But make sure it is stuff u need, my sis made one and had all kind of stuff she didnt need and a couple relatives were cracking up about it.
Some people could see that as rude. I’d play it safe and just wait and see if your guests ask you what you need. Then you can ask them for something specific. Most people will ask when they RSVP anyway.
Personally I would consider it rude and offensive. However on the other side, you then will avoid getting what you dont need and what you do. Tough call to make
i dont think so you dont want 2 of everything! people do it with wedding lists why not baby showers?
Yes, it is rude.
It wont be rude if you put it down in a funny way. Try making it sound funny.
Nah its not rude
thats why people have baby showers for gifts ;] LOL
and its very helpful for the person buying the present aswell
But its a great idea having the list.. so u get what u want